the balancing act…

Just like some of the (many) days I had to try to do the balancing act on the bus, today was no different either. In addition, I was trying to read and reply messages on my mobile while balancing myself with my mobile, my Macbook and my loaded haversack. In this very attempt, I lost my balance when the bus jerked forward. 

I do not have this (very so not clever) habit of ’smsing’ when my hands are already occupied, but once in a while it just slip off my mind that I might have a great chance of losing my balance. Ironically, I can keep my balance real well on trains. As for buses, I just cannot seemed to find my CG(centre of gravity) at times and would end up ’sliding’ from one end to the other for a couple of time(s), and end up ‘performing’ for those interested to watch.

My silliness aside (I am still young and abled to stand for all bus rides), on the bus as well, I was looking at this old man who had just boarded the bus, rather helplessly. One thing, I was standing. Second, he was standing in front of me. Third thing to mention is that I did not have the courage. I simply lack the courage to ask the girls, one of whom wasn’t ’sleeping’ to give the seat up to the man. I admit the Sir’s dressing look fairly young, but it was rather obvious that he was looking for a seat. If I had the seat, I could have just stood up, but this time, it ‘belonged’ to someone else, so it was more difficult. Of course, it is not an excuse to put off the fact that I simply lacked the courage this time. Like what sensei, Daisaku Ikeda said ”Compassion is nothing when there is no courage, courage is needed to take action.” – This can be explain by when we have possible thoughts of compassion, it is nothing if we do not have the courage to act it out.

There are many opinions about this topic (that was personal point of view, you could disagree), and it goes on…, but the thing is that if it comes from the heart, and it is right, do it (man)! It brings a cheer to your heart when after split seconds of struggles within yourself, you take an action. It is nothing big and something to ‘wow’ about at all, it is just what you feel for another person. 

Talking about courtesy, maybe some people might lift a brow up when they see someone give a seat up, there is a possible reason to why they did it. In fact, it is simply an act of concern, and a daily life thing. Why people might lift a brow may be due to habit. Habit, to not see those acts more often, but it is not something that we do it once in a while when we feel happy. It is something no matter how horrible your day was, or whether your boss scolded had given you a huge lecture out of no reason, that is still something we ‘have’ to do. See those ‘ ‘ ? It still comes down to a matter of choice.

Previously, my friend who went to USA for a holiday trip, came back telling me these: American men open doors for people behind them, even if there is no one, they will check, even if they are the ‘busiest men in the world’ or ‘flying off’ to work. This doesn’t imply that women can wait for everything to be done or initiated by men, (come on) it is a world of equality, so if rights are equal, tasks are equal. =D By right, it should be cultivated from young, or at learnt picked up in life. It is time people take a second look at the people around us, other people in this world… I remember someone blogging about men in USA on trains as well…. Yes, another supporting fact that it can be part of every day’s life.